Marriage Musings Monday: Having Time Apart
Now, don’t get fooled by the title of this post. I am not recommending that newly married couples take vacations apart or live completely separate lives on different schedules. Instead, I am suggesting that it is important for newlyweds (or anyone in any relationship) have time daily (or weekly) when each person can spend time alone.
For example, before I met Neal, I had a life filled with interests, hobbies and passions. These hobbies and interests made me multi-dimensional, and probably attracted Neal to me. (I like to think that my blogging had something to do with us getting together…Yeah, blogging is sexy.) I think it’s important for me to continue my interests and Neal to do the same, as we move forward in our marriage… alone.
If Neal wants to work on a few of his DIY projects, I let him putter around the house. And as for me, I am content blogging away or attempting to garden.
Sure, we have hobbies that we share together like travel, watching movies, cooking, or come spring/summer hiking and bicycling through Wales. But having time apart allows us to dive into something we both love and recharges our batteries.
Sure, I love being next to Neal (he makes me laugh alot) but I also love spending time alone.
What do you think about having time alone from your other? Does it help make the relationship stronger? Or does time apart mean you are trying to escape something in the relationship?
Just a few marriage musings this Monday!
XO,
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Greetings and welcome to my little corner of the blogging world. My name is Belinda and I am a newly married lady who moved from Seattle to Northern Wales. Why? To be with the love of life Neal. My blog is my attempt of making sense of my new life as a wife and an expat.
I agree that couples should have together and separate hobbies or interests. I think it keeps a sense of self which is so easy to lose in a relationship as well as being refreshed when together. Right now my husband is taking a class on meditation which he loves and does not interest me at all and this topic came up a lot when he was starting the class as I love seeing how happy he is after the class and not having to participate!
Totally agree… I really need my alone time sometimes and I think it’s really important to keep a relationship healthy!
Haha, I thought this post was going to be about long-distance relationships!
I have to say, having been in an LDR for a long time (including while married) we both got good at cultivating our own hobbies.
Hi!!
Thanks for swinging by my blog and leaving a comment. I agree that being in a LDR you have to almost live separate lives, allowing for interests and hobbies to continue to cultivate. I will have to pop over to your blog soon to say hello! Cheers…